Living in a teensy tiny house and being polyamorous doesn’t really work all that well. While we only have the two humans and two cats living here, we suffer from a profound shortage of space, which makes it challenging when it comes to finding the room to be intimate with other partners.
My husband and I really aren’t big on setting rules – over the years we have talked a lot and figured out stuff that make us both comfortable, and that’s how we continue to work. One of the things we agree on is that we choose to share our bed only with people that we’re both sleeping – it’s our bed, so it’s for us, our cats, and our lovers. (If we could keep the cats off it? *cough yeah right* The cats do whatever they please, whenever they please. And we live with it and like it.)
In the last two places we lived, we had a second bedroom: that was the poly room / play room / guest room / spare room. And that was awesome. There was always space for a friend to sleep over or stay for a while; a place for me to get tied up (or down); and room to stretch out and play with a partner. But in this house? The second room wouldn’t even fit a single bed, so it’s filled with bookshelves and boxes, and we have a fold-out sofa in the lounge instead. It’s a really good fold-out sofa, but the situation is, frankly, not ideal.
Still, we’ve managed so far. It helps that all partners know everyone, and are friendly – and that there are partner’s houses which are larger. It also helps that I’m a fiend for scheduling things with Google Calendar, and arranging times and places so they work well for everyone!
We’ve been in our current place for eighteen months. We’re only going to stick it out another six, and then we’re moving on to a larger place … and I’ve already started packing! But there are some advantages to this place that I will miss. I can stand in one spot in the hall and see every room in the house bar the laundry, which means I can also see all the places I’ve been sexy:
The bathroom where I’ve had amazing hot shower sex with my husband;
The sofa where I’ve given amazing blow-jobs to various partners, and had one intense cunnilingus session with a girl-friend;
The bedroom where we spent a luscious evening with our long-adored lady friend;
The computer in the lounge where I have sexy Skype dates with my Melbourne lover;
The kitchen where I’ve boiled my dildos and rocked myself to orgasm with a remote vibe in, whilst doing the dishes.
Every house you live in you build memories in. This house may be smaller, but the memories are just as intense. I can’t wait to get up to some mischief in the next one!
| Curvaceous Dee